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Rebound girl

Found this on a tumblr, it seems totally appropriate for the situation at hand. Not for myself being in a rebound relationship, but for my ex, Robb. All of this makes perfect sense. I can say I’m mad or jealous by the fact he’s now in a relationship with someone else, but most of all I’m hurt. I know I was the one that broke up with him, but he was the one who said I was the love of his life and then got with her 3 months later…In the end she’s the rebound girl, she’s the one who’s going to get hurt. She’s my replacement and a crappy one at that. Now after 4 1/2 months of not seeing each other, I’ll be seeing him tomorrow for the first time since we’ve broken up. Things are going to be awkward, we might even fight who knows. In the end it’s the closure neither one of us ever got from the break up. I do admit it will be nice to see him, but at the same time I can already feel the weirdness, I know he more than likely told all his hockey friends I’m coming to see him tomorrow. I know I’m gonna get looks and once overs I’m prepared for that. What I’m not quite prepared for is the idea of him looking at me in a different way, a look that is not one filled with love and admiration like it once was for so long, but instead one of spite and anger. All I can do is hope for the best and prepare for the worst. 

And most importantly….

  10. Don’t result to settling for a rebound!

This is probably one of the biggest mistakes that everyone makes.

Let me guess, you’ll make him jealous, right?

Well yes, this may be true but a rebound is only a temporary solution to a problem that may very well be permanent!

Think about it: How the hell would you feel if you found out you were a rebound?!?

How would you feel if you were falling for a guy and you find out that he’s still in love with his ex and was only using you to get over all those feelings and or/ make him/her jealous!?!?

Wouldn’t you feel like crap?

*Getting a rebound is only covering all the feelings that you still have for your ex.

They do not eliminate them.

You have to be mature and respectful enough to take the time off after a break up to get over all those feelings yourself…before you bring someone else into it.

You owe that much to your next love.

In a way, a rebound is a way of lying to the person you’re with.

You know good and well that you still have all these old feelings for your ex, so why are you using this person to get over that?

This person deserves to be with someone who can love him how he should be loved, and he just can’t get that if you’re still stuck on your ex.

And you need time to do that. 

Getting into relationships immediately following, prematurely, or before all the old feelings have faded can be a set-up for failure.

It can bring on new drama, pain, and heartbreak.

I was even guilty of this tactic myself and I ended up cheating on my new boyfriend with my ex that I was still in love with all along.

I wasn’t honest with myself. I had known where my heart belonged, and it wasn’t with the rebound.

Save yourself the extra drama. Avoid rebounds.

We may not have discovered the perfect remedy to getting over an ex, but there are things that you can definitely avoid in making the situation worse.

Read it. Think about it. Live it.

You deserve better.

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